The Relationship with parents – pertaining to matters of the heart

I cannot express more forcefully the importance, especially of girls who get taken in by the sweet talk that guys engage in especially at the start of a relationship. With Men from Mars and women from Venus, it is important to understand the psyche of the girl, which the young men seem to know. Time and again they get taken in by the pack of lies a young man tells the girl, so that he becomes her sole obsession.

Women are prone to invent stories about their suitor which is blown out of proportion from the initial idea put into their heads by the suitor. Within a few weeks she is hooked and nothing will stop her now.

It is then through some incident the parents find out, and all hell breaks loose. At that moment nine times out if ten, the girl is under age, that is under 18 and the boy is over 18. In fact though the girl is more mature than the guy in every way in the lying stakes it is the reverse, as boys learn the trick of lying to get the girl at a very early age, and perfect that practice to a fault so that their sweet talking ways hypnotize the girl.

It is only then that the parents realize that they have no relationship with their daughter in the affairs of the heart. By then it is too late!! The boys has already got it into her and the end result is the irreversible act.

This is therefore not just a warning to our young lasses to be wary of any guy wishing to pursue a friendship usually at the tuition classes the modus operandi being using the sms mode, but more especially to the parents to warn the child well in time before this happens to have her head on her shoulders and be prepared for the flattery, which is only that, to find the blind spot, first to hoodwink her to his way of storytelling which is all a pack of lies of the imagination.

The heart to heart with daughters of this matter is now important even at age 12 or 13 before they see boys for anything more than conners and rogues. They must realize that at the very least A levels are a minimum before they can get enmeshed in something they find hard to extricate from. It is too late when the affair is found out, when the father of the girl beats the hell out of the boy. The worst course of action, as the girl with feeling of guilt at her lover being wounded, takes the irrational decision to runaway with him, leaving the father and mother to rue the day, they were not able to simply explain the facts of life!!